Did We Choose Our Life and Manifest It?
While it is freeing for some to believe that we made our own decisions before being born, it is crucial to draw a line between our power and other people’s actions. We need to be real, or we will end up blaming ourselves for what others did to us. This effectively removes responsibility from the abusers, allowing them to further deny their accountability.
Imagine that we did decide to be born into a certain family with specific souls. Do you really think our souls chose to be abused as children? Do you really think we decided to be suicidal? Even if we chose the family and the people, we certainly did not choose the harm. A soul would have to be incredibly masochistic to do such a thing. When we come here, we are responsible for our own attitudes and actions; therefore, those who make the decision to abuse someone are the only ones responsible.
While we are here, we are free to do and say whatever we want. Of course, that doesn’t necessarily make it constructive, but we can—and that is the reality. I would also like to add that a child is not "manifesting" abuse, either. It is truly creepy when people try to place full responsibility on a child when the abuser is the only person making the decision and taking the action to abuse. How can we even dare to say that we manifest another person’s lack of empathy?
I believe we need to put everything and everyone in their respective places and stop the blame-shifting and gaslighting. As long as you don't, you are supporting the abuser, and thus, the abuse itself.
